I watched these types of videos and am discouraged. Mind you, this is happening in class, not just in the streets. Why is it that young ladies can degrade themselves better than they can construct sentences and master arithmetic? No one has motivation to study for the SAT or otherwise prepare for life after high school yet practice gyrating to no end. There is a dire need to address the message being conveyed and the effect it has had on our youth.
‘It’s fun!…It’s just dancing…it’s not that serious!’ I ask girls all the time what makes twerking the thing to do and these are the responses they give. I get it. Trust me. I was a teenager once upon a time. In my day we had the butterfly and the pop. Perhaps the adults felt the same way about our moves that we do about this generation’s. And don’t get it twisted. African American girls are not the only ones engaging in this form of dance. Every culture has twerking to some degree.
So what’s the big idea? Why is it damaging? Because it’s misleading.
WHO YOU ARE
When you think of twerking what comes to mind? Females, usually in tiny shorts, doing suggestive, booty popping. When you think of yourself do you see the same vision? I hope not. Most young people have aspirations for successful futures. I don’t know anyone who, deep in their hearts, only wants mediocre. You have passions, goals, dreams and surely they surpass this form of dance.
WHO PEOPLE THINK YOU ARE
‘I don’t care about what people think about me.’ Sometimes you need to. When rumors circulate or your parents have a difficult time trusting you because of your habits or behavior, you will care. The boys girls try to impress when they twerk-they are not thinking, ‘Oh she is going to be the girl I spend the rest of my life with. Look at her twerk! She is going to be a great mother and a decent wife. My parents will be proud that I chose her. Definitely not. He is thinking, ‘If she is acting like this then she is probably willing to have sex.’
What you exhibit to people will become their perception of you whether it is reflective of who you really are or not. They can only consider what you offer them. You are to exemplify your best attributes at all times. If you don’t represent yourself well, who will?
No one thinks CEO, doctor or lawyer when they see girls twerking. They think promiscuity, teen pregnancy and a range of other unfortunate but perpetuated stereotypes. It is very hard not to imagine a strip club future for females posting pictures and videos of themselves doing this.
When the time comes for letters of recommendation, acceptance into programs, or even interviews, you want to be known as someone who conducts themselves in a respectable manner. Reputations follow you for life and while you may be able to rehabilitate them, it takes hard work and lots of time.
Consider now who you want to be known as and begin promoting that identity.
I want to dare all females to be more than their bodies. To know that they have more to offer than a view of their behinds. There is so much more to be known and remembered for than how well you can make it clap. I’m not saying that you can’t enjoy dancing and have fun with your friends but there is a time, place and manner in which to do all things. I just ask that as you twerk to realize what and who you are telling people you are.
In your opinion, is twerking a truly harmless act?
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