Who isn’t talking about the statement that First Lady Obama made during Glamour’s The Power of an Educated Girl panel in Harlem, NYC. “There is no boy at this age who is cute enough or interesting enough to stop you from getting your education,” she advised. Flotus followed this statement by mentioning that her focus on her education, instead of on boys during her formative years, is what enabled her to position herself for the role of FLOTUS.
So my question is…how many of us truly love the young girls in our lives? We are constantly saying that we don’t want our girls to settle for less, that we want them to be with men who deserve them. Are we also training and developing them into the women of value that men of value pursue? We have to make sure that we are bridging the gap. The fundamentals are our responsibility and they begin during early childhood and in the home. Society and the media are going to tell them one thing, peer pressure will encourage them to behave in various ways, but it is our duty to reinforce the standards at home.
Never underestimate the importance of leading by example. Fathers, be the type of man that you tell your daughter is acceptable. Demonstrate this in how you treat her, the choice of women you date or how you treat the woman you are with, and your work ethic. It goes such a long way to practice what you preach and not just dictate.
The same thing goes for the moms. Show these girls what women look like, how they act, how they communicate and the value of self-respect and dignity. It’s imperative. We are so concerned with selfies showing eyebrows on fleek, bundles of hair, and tutorials on how to keep a man. If you raise her to pursue her education and dreams above all else, she will be the woman a man works hard to achieve and never puts himself in a position to lose.
I can’t say it enough. Invest time and attention in these young girls and their pursuits. That’s part of what leads them astray. When we don’t support them yet a little boy is giving them attention, they misconstrue that as positive, productive engagement. Does it end with our teenage girls? Absolutely not. Girls who are in the habit of neglecting their education and dreams for the attention of boys become women who neglect themselves for the attention of men. Most women can attest to this.
We aren’t doing our young girls any justice by watching them falter from the sidelines. Hands on guidance is fit. Show them fun in the responsible sense; one that won’t end in an unfortunate series of events. The aim is not to seclude them from the experiences and enjoyment of teenhood, but to see them arrive well prepared and safely on the other side. If you don’t feel sufficient in handling this obligation, the best and fairest thing you can do is pair them up with a mentor or organization that can do what you can’t. Give them at least that.
Forbes has called entrepreneurship, ‘The New Women’s Movement’. We have been starting more businesses than men for the past 2 decades. Why wouldn’t your young girl be part of this culture? Education is key.
Michelle Obama has been an inspiration since day 1 as our first lady. She is the epitome of what the FLOTUS should be. First Lady Obama has demonstrated dignity, integrity, concern for every community in our nation, and OMG what a freaking beauty! I’m sure every time the President looks at this Beauty/Brains package his heart is like…#winning!
So ask yourself, are you really doing all that you should be to ensure that your young girls thrive; and if not, what are you going to begin doing starting today? No boy is cute enough and nothing is interesting enough to distract them from their education.
If you have an awesome young girl in your life doing truly amazing things, nominate her for The Queenhood’s Queen of the Week by emailing her pic and a brief description of why she is a Queen to firstname.lastname@example.org.